Our current situation:

Want to write a short update on what’s going on with these two life travellers who’ve been parked in Sweden for almost a year now.

Karlskrona a few weeks ago

  • Still in Sweden
  • Anders is recovering from years and years of mental and physical stress
  • My new work-contract is until 1:st of March 2018
  • Two homes: Kristianstad and Aspö
  • Have started our second round of IVF (assisted conception)
  • Live a lot in the “unknown” when it comes to planning and trying to control our situation, energy-levels, time schedule and activities 
  • Focus on living a good and joyful basic life where sleep, fresh air, physical movement, reading, eating good food and taking care of our relationship are the keys

    My bike today…

    Skating om the lake Immeln a few weeks ago

    January walk by the water on Aspö

    Aspö in January

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    Again: the little things

    The beach in Åhus at 7.30 pm

    From our traveling life to a more “common” lifestyle with work, routines and a (or two) more long-term place to stay.

    During the past four weeks I’ve been working full time, living at friends’ and going home to Aspö and Anders during the weekends. It’s rather intense and I meet a lot of people while working, and yet I feel like it’s vacation quite often!

    Low season at the gym = lots of space!

    Maybe it’s because I appreciate many of the the small things, like bringing my own high quality coffee to work, or that I make sure to exercise regularly, or because I am outside daily and love to be able to take a swim after work.

    Tex mex dinner with friends

    Simply put, I do what I can to notice all the good in life, make sure to take care of myself with enough sleep, good food and routines, and to play with the daily to-dos and not get too stuck in “should, could, would”.

    Breakfast at home, and a full day together with Anders!

    Whatever the combination is, part of it is to take care of the basics to make sure this person is well, and to remember and notice beauty in the little everyday things.

    Practicing on our slackline

    And for me, it’s very important to play, learn new things and to be around people I love.

    Take care and notice what’s important to you, and all the beauty you have around the corner!

    Xoxo,

    Wivan 

    Pain, beauty, walking and tiredness

    It’s been a weird first week of work. Last Sunday, on the train to Kristianstad and Åhus, I got a lumbago, a terrible back pain.

    So painful that I cursed and screamed out loud on the train. I could hardly get off with my bag and bike, and because I walked so slowly due to pain, I missed the bus.

    Bike, bag and yoga mat on the train

    So, my first day of work turned out being a day of sick leave with a visit to the chiropractor  and lots of walking to keep warm and help the healing.

    The entire week I’ve been walking, standing, walking and standing as much as possible. I have been working, and managed to do things differently than usual. The pain has been reduced by the day, and I am so grateful for my knowledge of healing, lots of movement, and the good chiropractor I found.

    It’s also been extremely tiresome to walk and stand up many hours every day, and not to sleep all that well due to pain.

    At the same time it’s humbling and good to be reminded of how privileged many of us are most of the time – healthy and without pain. 

    Happy morning work at Haväng, on pain killers

    It does feel like a privilege to get to work with such creative and fun things as I do when out reporting live from different parts of Skåne in southern Sweden.

    And to be able to take care of myself at the same time.

    Friday treat for the train ride to Karlskrona

    Anders and I spent the weekend together, talking, swimming, going to a concert, watching movies and eating good food. Did I say talking? And walking.

    Never seen purple roses before!

    Anyways, now we have started this new way of living – part time together, part time apart. And as we have written before, we usually do pretty well when we have a mix of time together and time apart. It’s hard for some to understand, but I guess it’s also a question about what we view as “normal” or how things “should” be.

    Don’t know if we will still find this way of living good in six months – but on the other hand, without trying we will never know!

    Got this cute pic sent to me from Anders

    So, let’s keep our minds open to what we don’t know, and dare to try different for a while. Maybe we learn something new, get experience we never would otherwise, and find out more about life.

    With love, and a little back pain,

    Wivan 

    A new phase

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    Drying laundry

    Today I pack and prepare to go to Åhus, where I’ll live during the week-days this summer when working in Kristianstad.

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    Packing

    Since it’s eight weeks, it takes a bit of planning, and yet not that big of a deal since I will be home most weekends.

    It certainly is a new phase for us though, to live apart more and for me to work full time.

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    Last night's dinner preparations

    I have already signed up to work until next February, so it’s a phase or change that’s a bit more long term than we’ve been used to over the past years.

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    Some sunny days together

    So, again, reminding myself of the changes in life that always come, that anything can happen at any given moment and it’s just to ride along and see what comes.

    Scared, excited, humble and grateful.

    Love,
    Wivan

    Small things that are great

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    Midsummer eve

    Yesterday was Midsummer Eve, and a lot of Swedes celebrated the light, life and summer.
    In the night, after dinner, Anders pampered me with a pillow, blanket, great coffee and chocolate when we sat outside in the shade.

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    Ready for a swim

    It was one of those moments when it becomes so clear how valuable those small things are, and how useless it is to live in either the past or the future.

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    Summer

    On Monday I start working at the radio station in Kristianstad again, eight weeks of summer job. And now I have also signed to continue working throughout January next year. Goodness, we haven’t planned this long ahead for ages. But now it’s time, and of course I have had thoughts of “where and when will I find a place to live during work weeks?”, “how will it be to work full time?”, “what will my weeks look like?”.

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    Picking Elder-flowers for lemonade

    Last night, in the bright summer night under a blanket and with peace inside, I just understood how useless those thoughts are. There are certain things I can do to prepare, but most of “what will it be like…”, is still to experience. There’s no use to think too much about it, because in a few months I will know from experience.

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    Chillaxing in the shade

    All my life I’ve been wondering what it’s like to have glasses. Now I know, since I’ve got my first pair and have started to practice wearing them. And I guess I could never have imagined it being like it is. So why spend time on it before it’s even happened?

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    I feel a lot more good looking than the pictures turn out!

    That’s it for now. It’s a wonderful summer day and I am busy enjoying it!
    Lots of love and sunshine,
    Wivan

    An odd day off

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    Marian Keyes' book The Mystery of Mercy Close

    Today is a bank holiday and I am off work, still in my “extra home” where I stay during work weeks.

    So I have spent a lot of time with the character Helen Walsh in the book The Mystery of Mercy Close by Marian Keyes.

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    Red wine and tomatoes

    And I’ve been thinking about the future, like this upcoming fall and how it may be, I took the bike to visit some friends and have been outside in the sun for a bit.

    Just chillin’ and letting life be as it is in this moment. Thankful and happy to be alive.
    With love,
    Wivan

    @home weekend

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    Sheep cup of coffee

    Saturday morning, have had my breakfast and read some blogs, getting ready to go to the gym and then visit grandma and see how she’s doing.

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    Sun on the ferry yesterday

    What a nice feeling yesterday; to come back home to Anders after a couple of nights away when working in Kristianstad. And to land back on this island of Aspö where we stay now. I love it!

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    Sunny evening

    Today I am a bit tired, it’s been a couple of intense days with lots of people, conversations and many hours in front of the computer.

    Grateful for being able to take the day as it comes – no strict plans!

    Wivan