15 months ago, we had no clue we would end up doing house sits in Singapore and Sri Lanka this year. Well, probably nobody knew or imagined that back then.
But, it’s happened and for that we are forever grateful. So many possibilities opening up, people we get to meet and learn from, houses, animals, foods and cultures we never had thought of experiencing.
This is true though for most parts of life: little is predictable and there’s always change, no matter how much we hope to control or plan – there’s always change. Not saying plans are bad or unneccesary, just that they, and we, need to be flexible and adjust to whatever comes our way.
When flying to Sri Lanka four weeks ago we had no clue we would fall in love with this country and be so happy about having extended our visas for another two months.
That a thought I spent some time on yesterday was when we leave here in April, when will we be able to come back again?! How many months will we be away from Sri Lanka until next time?
With that thought in mind, I started smiling – how can one miss a place when still being there, and what do I know about what is to come in the following months? The thinking/feeling might be totally different then, so why spend time worrying over it now?
Anyways: Little do we know.
How can we live in that understanding today? (that we basically don’t know squat).
Let’s go explore what happens when knowing we don’t know!
Love and joy,
On the train to Paris last Friday we were eating our lunch that we brought and I realized we had no clue what that night would be like.
There were pictures of the apartment we had rented over the weekend, but one never knows if that is how a place is irl. And we had gotten some suggestions for restaurants in Paris, but nothing was booked and we might not even feel like going out. Is there a grocery store nearby? We had no idea.
Now we know what the place looks like, that there are great restaurants in the area, several grocery stores and “walking-friendly” streets.
But we’re about to step into the unknown again.
We’re leaving Europe tomorrow, to go via Qatar to Bali, a trip of more than 24 hours from door to door.
In Bali we’re booked for a six-nights stay in Kuta – nothing else is planned. We know the food will be different, the sounds, the temperature and the sun, the people and nature – most things will be different from here, and still we will meet people; people that all have the same needs, desires and wishes as most other human beings.
So we’re ready to meet what comes our way, curious of how we will react to what is new to us, interested in discovering new places and people from all paths of life.
Tired from walking, grateful to spend our days together and curious about life.
Wivan and Anders
You can’t know what the perfect path will be, you can’t know what the perfect you should be, you can’t know what your purpose in life is until it starts to uncover itself. You can’t know your destination until you get there. So instead of spinning your wheels with the unknowable, focus on what you actually have right in front of you.
– Leo Babauta –
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Being in transition to a new place (physically and mentally) definitely gives a lot of insights on what is joyful and exciting. We’ve been explaining to many people lately that it feels like we’re more alive than in a long time. When we’ve decided to sell our house in southern Sweden and move to a small village south of Alicante in Spain, it’s a little like going back in time, about 10-15 years.
I feel younger, more flexible mentally and adventurous. It’s fun! Sure, it’s a mental thing – I haven’t gotten 15 years younger physically, but I feel alive. So what we’re learning in this process is that “the unknown” doesn’t have to be scary or difficult, it can also be energizing and fun, givning us new things to learn and gain joy from.
So, here’s what it looks like for us right now:
* Selling our house in Sweden – still no buyer has shown up
* Buying a company in Spain – but no contract yet, and we need to get a loan
* Moving to a village in Spain, hopefully this autumn, where we don’t know exactly where we’ll be living – we have a verbal agreement with a landlord
* Owning quite a lot of furniture and things, that we haven’t sold or rented a storage for yet
* Learning Spanish, slowly but surely
It’s quite a few things that are not clear or ready yet. Still we find this situation quite comfortable and ok, it’s a matter of attitude and knowing that all our feelings come from our thoughts. Thus it’s not the outer things or situations that makes us feel safe or secure, rather it’s inside of us.
We’ve had a wish of moving abroad for quite some years now, and the way possibilites have lined up the past year is a good confirmation that we’re on the right path.
When doubt shows up every now and then, it’s good to remember the quote from Mooji: “Feelings are just visitors, let them come and go”, thereby not believing everything that pops up as the truth.
Thanks for visiting! // Wivan