Practicing being apart


Last week going to Höör together

Since November 2014, when we sold our house and took off to Southern France, the two of us have been together most of the time.
Choosing to live in a different style, often staying in other people’s houses and in countries we’re not familiar with, it’s been our new normal – always together.


In Bali, last November

If you have read the blog for a while you might know that we do have different internal “time zones”, and actually spend quite some time separately, but still – we’ve been staying at the same places most of the time.
Last summer there were some exceptions when we worked in different places, and went for some trips separately.


After bathing an elephant in Thailand

When we’ve been in France and Asia over the past six months, we have been together every day, rain or shine.


After morning surf in Sri Lanka

Last week I spent one night away from Anders, and now I am off on my own for several days. Yesterday we didn’t even speak on the phone, and tonight I try to not call him again just because I am used to always talking to him… It’ll be so much fun to get together again on Saturday!

Gosh is it a good reality check to see how closely we have been living! As a couple we have always been used to having periods of separation – if only a weekend here and there. But it has been a way for us to see each other from a distance, to remember what we love about each other and to also enjoy our separate interests on our own or together with friends.


First day back in Sweden

So now we practice being apart, explore our interests and to talk with others – which is also a challenge when you’re used to mostly talk to this one person who knows you really well and just gets you.
17 years we’ve been a couple. By spending time apart we keep the curiousity alive and still have things to tell each other.


Moon over the ocean

With love,

Creativity at play

Do you remember?


Starting a game of memory

An idea came and I took action right away. Created a memory game for us to play with the family – a combination of doing something fun together, and to practice words.


A box of crackers, a cup and a pen

At bed time I often play a game or two of memory on my tablet, to practice my memory before sleeping. And now I realized it could be a fun way to work with English and Sinhala for all of us.


21 pairs of pictures

I had fun making it, getting to use my pens and creativity to draw all the different pictures.

So tonight tried the game with the daughter of the family after dinner, and it worked out rather well.


Not matching

She’s willing to practice, and we all learn things together – and have fun! This game also strenghten our overall communication skills and our relationships. So, for the next “lesson” we want to find something else to do, play or use as a help. Mostly, it’s spoken English that needs to be improved, and to have a few pictures to use as a base is good for small conversations and role plays.

So we’ll see what we come up with!


Pineapple, boat, house, cup, chair...

“You want to rent a sun bed?”

“Hello! Foot massas? Manicure? Buy something? Massas?”

The past few days we have practiced the art of saying no; No thank you, No nothing, No we are not interested, No we’re not buying… No massage. Thank you.
No, we’re not from Germany. And no taxi, thanks!


Practice to walk in Bali traffic

There are many people who sell services and goods to all the tourists here, and of course we’re meeting many of them as we walk on the streets, the beach or just look into a shop.


Sun beds at Kuta beach

When we walked to the beach and back both yesterday and today, many cars and scooters have slowed down beside us, and the driver asking if we wanted transportation. The streets are busy and the traffic moves quickly, so it is a bit of a challenge to figure out the tempo and “rules”. Now we’re starting to get a hang of it, and it’s easier to find a gap that’s big enough for us to be able to cross the streets.


Walking in Kuta

As Anders said yesterday; it’s interesting to get to know this part of Bali by foot. And both of us are certain we don’t want to stay longer here in Kuta than the nights we’ve already booked and pre-paid for; it’s too busy, too many tourists and feels expensive though the prices are much lower than we’re used to from Europe.


In the middle of hotels, houses and shops

Have we bought anything at all? Yes! We had a “we’re lost-coffee” yesterday, rented sun beds on the beach (but not from all that asked), we’ve had smoothies and fresh coconut in a couple small beach bars, got a Balinese sim-card, a dress for Wivan, and some t-shirts + a new pair of flip-flops for Anders.


Green juice at cool beach bar

Oh, by the way! We start to get used to this all, we’re doing well and are slowly getting accustomed to the heat. Still no plans for next week, but research in progress.

Lots of sunshine // Anders and Wivan


Snack: grilled corn cob


At the beach earlier today

Baby steps towards standing up

Second day of surfing in Portugal. The bus picked us up at 6.45 am to be able to catch the morning waves before the beach was too crowded.


Ready to get out in the water

As I understand it, the waves haven’t been much to brag about yet. And to me that might be one little part of the difficulties to get up to standing position. But also, my technique haven’t been that great, so after today’s session in the water I practiced the “pop up” on the board in the sand.


After surfing

To be kind to myself, I repeat the mantra “everyone is a beginner sometime”, “you gotta start somewhere” and “practice makes perfect”. Let’s just say I’ll probably get some extra attention from the instructor tomorrow in order to get up on the board properly.


Detox juice after today's class

Tonight we’ll have a theory session and then a yoga class to stretch out those paddling-muscles and maybe get a bit closer to the right technique to stand up on the board.


Surfer friend reading in the sun

Had a nice dinner out last night, and good laughs when trying to learn some words from our friends from Switzerland here at the camp. My three room mates and I get along well and all of us at the camp start to get to know each other a bit better.


Kids from kinder garten at the beach

Until the next time!

// Wivan