This is to…

… missing people and places we have met during our lives, to family and loved ones we think of, to missing Sweden and all its lovely weirdness, to nature and beauty, to tears and laughter, to love and loss, to life and death. This is to all the things that are part of living and still not understanding one single thing.

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Lotus flower

Last night we stayed up late, talking about what we want and need right now.

All of a sudden we realized we easily get caught up in what is happening around us here, and that we quite often do things when what we really need in that moment is to take a deep breath and ask ourselves what we want to do or what’s most needed for us right now.

Saying yes to invitations, or to take another step into local life in order to learn and understand more is at times extremely tiresome and challenging. Lots of fun of course, and tiresome.

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Moon and palm trees

We start to understand how used we are to having time on our own, to be able to walk out a door without meeting a single person (yes, in Sweden one can actually be alone rather often), how we are longing for the sometimes isolated life many Swedish people live – that we also not always like – it is nice when people come together to help and care for each other.

We start to wonder how to get the mix we’d like to have – to have a place to stay where we can choose when to meet with others and when to be alone. Where people greet and care for each other, are willing to help and still give one another privacy. Where it’s ok to say yes to dinner today, and no thanks tomorrow. Where there are less questions about how we choose to lead our lives and more acceptance for differences. Where the climate is good and there is an openness to views if life we’re not familiar with. Where love flows and there’s a big acceptance for people.

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How did we end up helping to repair this roof?

Sure, we’re the first to say that we are all responsible for creating a way of living and an surrounding environment that we like and can thrive in. And yet there are certain things we as humans can not control, and most certainly we can not change others – only ourselves. So who are we, Anders and Wivan, in the middle of all these thoughts and longings?

Right now I think we have more questions than answers, and accept that fact. Who knows what will happen today or tomorrow. We’ll take our responsibility for ourselves and see to our needs, and from that we see what happens and where we end up.

With love, gratitude and many questions,
Wivan

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“You happy?”

When walking around in the villages in Weligama on the Southern coast of Sri Lanka in the past couple of weeks, it often struck us how open the hearts and smiles seem to be of locals we’ve met. Even if we come from a different environment, climate and social rules, we’ve been invited to come inside people’s houses and share a moment together. Often we had a cup of tea or were served a meal.

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Out walking, met by smiles

For most people living here in Sri Lanka, leading simple lives and earning money from one day to another, it’s hard to understand the concept of long-time travels and the time and money the two of us have decided to “spend” traveling rather than saving for later. And we, Anders and Wivan, certainly have a hard time to explain our situation, sometimes because of language difficulties and sometimes just because our way of living is so very different from most people’s.

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Happy fishermen

Often we are surprised by the Sri Lankan’s loving and happy spirit no matter what their living conditions are, and some locals seem a bit confused of how on earth we can go traveling without having a job that gives money day to day. So we, both sides, have some sort of unspoken agreement on not understanding each other’s situations fully and just be friends anyways, accepting our different situations, lifestyles and the not-understanding part.

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Tea time

That “agreement” is a lovely thing. At times we just shorten our story a bit, making it all about being in Sri Lanka for a month or three and telling people how much we love this beautiful country, the people, food and the weather. Other times, when language and time to talk is not a problem, we try and explain a bit more, part of it being a way to say that it’s possible to dream big and make things happen if we dare to step into the void every now and then.

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Adventures together with Mona

Now after arriving at our next house sit, staying in a very big and nice house, it’s again hard to explain when our Sri Lankan “brother” Mona calls to check how we are after the trip here. Yeah, we get to stay for free in a huge house, taking care of two dogs while their owner travels abroad…
Mona is a lovely guy though, and simply ask his regular question:

You happy?

And when we say ‘yes, we’re very happy’, he goes on:

You happy, me happy.

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This lovely guy, Mona, always caring

See, it doesn’t have to be more difficult than that. We’re friends and “family”, and if the other is happy, so are we.

With love and gratitude,
Anders and Wivan

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Train station in Weligama

Hello, good bye

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Surf camp house in Ericeira

The life style we (Anders and Wivan) have choosen includes a lot of hellos, but also a lot of good byes.
Many people we meet encourage us to continue do what we dream of, no matter how different it might be to their way of living. A lot of people also say “Oh, to travel that much is something I dream of doing” or “You live the way so many people wish they were living”.

We do believe it’s possible to reach and act upon dreams, to make them happen. As we all know, hardly anything happens in life in the precise order or time we humans think is the “right” way, but it can still happen. Maybe what’s needed is to look at life and dreams from a different angle every now and then. To ask for someone’s view of it, just to broaden the perspective a bit.

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what's your passion?

To take a different path in life, to make a change, usually needs us to say “hello” to something new, and “good bye” to something else. To embrace what earlier might have seemed frightening or odd and see where that takes us.

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Portugese pattern on a house

This “hello, good bye” is not only for traveling, or leaving something physical, it’s also useful on thought patterns, relations and habits.

Today I am leaving Portugal to go to France. It’s a good bye and “hope to see you again”-time. I fell in love with Portugal already last spring when we spent two and a half months on Flores in the Azores.
I fell in love again this time, with the ocean, the food, the sun, surfing, people and views. For that I am very grateful.

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Sunset in Ericeira

Now it’s time to re-unite with France, with friends and wonderful animals, views, food and nature. I look forward to that. But right now I allow myself to feel the depth of a good bye, a sense of that all we have is an ever changing wave, that we move on.

Till we meet again; good bye!
//Wivan

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Lizandro beach

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Pretty flowers

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Rarely buy souvenirs, but this deck of cards reminds me of good times and might come handy

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Some Starbucks-love this morning!

A nomadic lifestyle

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Tomorrow I'm leaving this three-week-home

Three weeks of work in Kristianstad in southern Sweden is coming to an end. Fun, intense weeks with work, social activities, lots of biking and outdoor life.

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In Falsterbo the other day

A few weeks ago a person I talked to made a quick comment as I told her a little about our life nowadays. She said: “You are living like nomads”. Never before had I thought of myself in those terms, and it was a little hard to take in. But it has grown on me, and even helped me understand myself a little better. Anders and I dolive a nomadic lifestyle at the moment. Because we want to, and because we like it.

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Laundry drying

It has it’s ups and downs, and to us it’s a lot more up living this way right now.

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Working in Falsterbo the other day

We believe in the importance of following your flow in life, or however you want to call it, and at the moment we certainly have a nomadic flow!

Love// Wivan