Shades of happiness

Recently a friend wrote “Parenthood is a rollercoaster” in a text-message to me. And I think I’d like to broaden that statement a bit;

Life is a rollercoaster.

May sound like things we’ve heard a thousand times before, but I don’t care, I still find it true!

Chestnut trees.

One of the great things in life though, is that it seems to be so many shades of happiness, darkness, joy, hard times, relationships and what have you. Lots and lots of shades. There is not just “happy” or “sad”, but can be millions of different variations.

This leads to:

You just can’t get bored.

Right? Since we have no clue of what’s to come, there’s always an element of surprise in life!

So, how can we enjoy the big and small surprises more? Can we? I don’t know, but I am going to welcome all the variations in the coming weeks and see what happens!

Take care!

//Wivan

A summer has gone by

And fall is here.

It’s been a different type of summer for us. After being in Spain in April/May, we stayed in Sweden all summer. We hoped for all to go well, wanted to believe it would but couldn’t really relax until summer was almost over. I rested a lot, Anders cooked food and took great care of me and we were thankful for all that we have.

Now we’ve come more than half way. We’re expecting a baby in February!

Yep, the last IVF-treatment did it’s job and there’s a lively, healthy baby joining our family in about four months time.

So the journey of life brings yet new experiences and we’re happy and grateful to be part of it all.

Have a nice weekend and take care!

//Wivan

Saturday and a slow start

Breakfast in bed

It’s a bit special for me nowadays to wake up and have breakfast at home. Usually, during work-days, I get ready quickly in the morning to be at work before 5.30 am. My breakfast is prepared the night before and I make my own coffee to bring in a thermo-cup to work.

I love my work hours, It’s no problem for me to get up in the morning and to get off by lunch is awesome – especially during winter so I can get some daylight in the afternoon.

At the gym in Colorado last summer

Saturdays and Sundays though are a nice break, and I love to start the day in another tempo, and without rush.

Often I think of going to the gym on Saturdays, but I get stuck with a book, coffee and relax by the breakfast table instead. Or prioritize going for a walk.

Poster on my niece and nephews’s school

Earlier in life, I was often picturing a more free life where I could spend my time however I wanted, without stress. And over the past years I have lived just like that a lot more.

Even now, when I work full time, I feel rather free most of the time, and I know it has a lot to do with my attitude towards priorities, “musts and shoulds”, how I think about time and also that I feel less stress over what others think of me and rather look to what I need and want.

As I write this, I see how far I’ve come on my personal journey, and how rewarding all the coaching sessions, reading, deep thinking and looking at my less charming thoughts and behaviours have payed off. For this I am grateful.

So, I’m ready to go out and meet  this day with curiosity and love and I hope you are too.

Love, Wivan 

Less things, less mess

Might need a sofa in this living room

This week I moved in to a small house/apartment in Kristianstad, where I will be working this fall. Anders will also live here some days and then we still have our small home at the island of Aspö too. Yes, it’s very different from our traveling life over the past years, and still this is quite a different way of living compared to our own house and all of that.

My bed, and soon another mattress will arrive

When driving the car I have borrowed, filled with stuff from our storage, I remembered the wonderful feeling of deciding to live with less stuff, and not become to eager to have a “perfect” home – it becomes less complicated. And with less things, you also make less of a mess. There simply aren’t enough things to make that big of a mess any more!

Me and a mattress

So, of course when staying in a place over time, it’s comfortable to have a good set of basics for cooking, clearing etc. But it’s also lots of fun to create and make a small place work out with second hand furniture, to only bring out what’s absolutely neccesary and what you actually use, or know you will use in a short future.

Small but will work fine for a basic life

These insights and perspective on what’s actually needed and how much luxury we live in have gotten stronger after traveling to countries where people live quite different from us in the West.

Mending a roof in Sri Lanka

Ok, time to get some sleep!

Enjoy your small and big luxury in life.

Love,

Wivan 

Mid-week bonus

The happiness of getting an extra night together

Yesterday I took a chance to change my schedule a bit and made it possible to get home for a night in the middle of the week.

Generous neighbors let us pick a lot of fresh veggies

How fun it is to catch an opportunity and it feels like a huge bonus to be able to do so.

We’ve bought two chickens. Which do you think is their first egg?!

Now on the train back to Kristianstad and a day of work.

And tomorrow it’s time to go back to Anders and the island again! 

Take care and stay in love with life.

Xoxo,

Wivan 

These youngsters…

Breakfast in London XX years ago

… Were us some 10 years ago. The picture was taken when we had breakfast at a friend’s place, whom was living in London back then.

I look at the picture that our friend recently found and sent me. At first I could hardly recognize the people in it, we looked different and maybe most of all I can somehow read our faces and eyes and see how different we were on the inside.

Interesting, and good to see – when wondering how much have changed or in what direction we’re moving, we sometimes need to look back and compare before we can see what the difference is.

2016

In the same spirit, I look back into my memory and remember what I felt like less than three weeks ago and realize how much much much better my back is!

Warm feet after lots of walking

Happy Thursday!

//Wivan