Afraid and scared, of what?

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House lit up at night

Just walked over to the neighbor’s house, where I have moved in today, and several other guests coming to the graduation also will be staying.

And oh my, was I aware of all the little sounds, the wide windows and that I was alone in the house?! Yes. Very much so.

Years back I was extremely afraid of being alone in the dark, and I had many different tactics for managing a night alone in our house, or brought a friend if I had to go outside in the dark.

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American duck tape

Now I was offered company to go over and get some stuff in my “new” room, but I said no thanks. I usually take moments like these to practice.

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A moose the other day

But, being here in Colorado, in the outskirts of town, it’s rather quiet and very dark at night. Something I like when looking at the moon and the stars, but not the best setup for ‘alone in an empty house’-practice.

So I decided that it was good enough to go there, get my stuff and calmly walk back and wait for the others to come.

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Rusty decorations

Maybe I’ve seen too many scary movies that take place in the US, maybe it’s just me not being trained in these types of environment, or maybe it just is what it is; not being used to a new house.

Nowadays I know that fear comes from my thinking about what is. That does not have to be true or real. Most often it’s not true and real, it’s just made up.
So, being afraid of being alone in the dark is my imagination of what could happen, there are no facts or experiences to back it up.

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Backyard

So tomorrow I’ll get more familiar with the house and surroundings in daylight, and keep practicing.

Until next time!
// Wivan

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Guests at local wedding

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The two of us and the bride and groom

Today was the big day for Praneeth and Nirasha, a young couple in the village outside of Weligama where we have spent a lot of time in the past couple of weeks. Honestly, we don’t really know them…

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Beautiful couple in their own house

Praneeth had invited us to come, and every time we’ve walked by the house they’ve been working hard on to finish before the wedding, he’s asked us to promise to come and his friends and family members have told us they’d be honored if we come. So we’ve asked around, with various luck due to language difficulties, about what to wear, what to bring, how to act and what a Sri Lankan wedding usually is like.

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Among the women at the wedding

Anders decided to wear his new, Sri Lankan sarong and a shirt and that was “approved” by the members of “our” local family. I asked the mother of the family if she had a saree I could borrow from her, and when coming there today she had bought a new saree for me to wear… There are many things that happen here without us understanding even half of it. So I just said thank you and decided to pay her back in some way further on. (they usually refuse to take money from us, even if we want to pay for something).

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Andrew in his sarong with elephants on

It took seven women to get me dressed and ready with make up, hair, ear rings, shoes and jewelry.

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A big gathering to get me ready

The younger girls ran to other houses to borrow make up, bracelets and safety pins.

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Smiles, laughter and excitement

Someone almost pinned my underwear to the dress, a make up pen broke before both eyes were done, and I broke some bracelet because my hands are bigger than the girl’s that had lended it to me.

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Picture time on the beach

Anyways, everyone was happy and these people were so proud of us wanting to wear the traditional clothing to the wedding.

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Us with the mother and father of "our" family here

When arriving at the wedding, the groom, his friends and family were so happy to see us, they held our hands and made sure to let us know how honored they felt.

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Off to take pictures

For us, the wedding party ment a lot of sitting inside the new house and in the neighbor’s garden (where the men gathered for strong drinks and snacks), listening to very loud live music, eating good food, smiling and accepting not understanding what went on, trying to figure out when and where to give our present, taking pictures of kids that one of the women wants us to send copies of, and telling everyone how much we love Sri Lanka.

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Dancing

And then there was dancing. Only men dancing, making spectacular moves to the extremely loud music, and I couldn’t help but get up there… As the only woman dancing, people came outside or stopped on the street to see the Swedish lady dancing in her Sri Lankan dress with the men at this local wedding.

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Moves...

We didn’t know if this was very inappropriate or not, but apparently it was some kind of success.

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All different combinations of pictures

After some hours of sweating, smiling, talking, eating, sitting, smiling, dancing and talking some more, we left and walked back home.

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Our pictures with the couple

Probably we made some “mistakes”, but we tried our best to show respect and give the newly wedded couple our warmest wishes. We enjoyed being part of something this big in these people’s lives, and smiled at the excitement our presence and dressing caused. We had a really good time and were totally exhaused afterwards.

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Some of the kids

Oh, the present we bought was a clay pot for the couple to use in their new kitchen – from today they live together in the new house and will start their life together as husband and wife.

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Sunset after the wedding

With love,
Anders and Wivan

We’re going to Bali!

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Goofball

Today, finally, we ordered tickets from France to… Bali! We go to Paris in less than three weeks, stay a few nights in what looks like an amazing studio and then we fly to Bali.

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The Bull and Anders

It’s taken some time to do research, to feel what we want to do, and now also get the tickets. With that in order, we have already booked our first six nights in a airbnb-apartment in Kuta on Bali.

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Beautiful purple Verbena

Can’t really explain how exciting and fun this is for us – we could still be living in a house in the woods in southern Sweden, but thanks to our decision to move, and then to a lot of different circumstances, choices and opportunities; here we are! About to spend a whole winter and spring in South East Asia.

Write again soon! Over and out.

//Wivan and Anders

FAQ

Here are some of the Frequently Asked Questions we get about our life, lifestyle and living.

Where are you now?
Currently we’re in the island Flores in the Azores. Anders will stay here till the end of May and Wivan till the beginning of June and then we’re going back to Sweden over the summer.

After Beach

After Beach

What is it you’re doing?
Taking a time-out, doing what we’ve dreamed of for a long time; travel and have time to think. In order to experience life like locals, we house sit and care for pets at different people’s houses while they’re away from home. We get to stay for free while they have someone to care for their property and their pets = win win.
At times we’ve also done some workaway-projects, where we’ve been working 4-5 hours per day, 5 days per week, in exchange for food and accommodation.

The dogs Lucky and Irviljish, our current "clients"

The dogs Lucky and Irviljish, our current “clients”

How long will you be travelling?
We don’t know. There’s no complete plan, no time line or set dates. We try and make decisions by feeling what’s inspiring and fun, how we are doing and what places/climate we’d like to be in.

How do you earn money?
Right now we don’t work. We live out of savings and some passive income from work we’ve done earlier with Mannatech. This upcoming summer we will be working in Sweden in our former jobs.

Wivan found €30 on a walk last week

Wivan found €30 on a walk last week

What’s it like not having a place of your own?
It’s working very well for us this far, we feel at peace with our chosen situation and enjoy trying another way of living. At times it’s tiring to move in and out of places but mostly it’s been great. When in mainland Europe we brought our own pillows everyplace we stayed which was a good thing!
We still have a home away from home at Wivan’s mom’s house, where we will spend some time this summer.

Last day in France

Last day in France

What do you do during the days?
Well, we don’t always do very much and we practice to go with the flow, do what we feel like and when we feel like it. Sounds a bit hippie-like to some, but really, it’s a practice! (Especially for Wivan…).

The pets we take care of are always a priority and we love to talk and think about things; patterns, feelings and basically we’re finding out what life is all about. (We will tell you when we’re “done”!).
We also watch movies, cook food, walk and exercise, try and find out what the places we visit are all about, do some sightseeing, swim, read, write, play games (Anders has a PS Vita). And we talk to friends and family, sleep, drink coffee, and do some cleaning (not too much).

When the weather is good...

When the weather is good…

Watching the clouds

Watching the clouds

Wivan on one of her alone-time hikes

Wivan on one of her alone-time hikes

Do you speak French now that you’ve been in France?
No, we’ve learned some basics, but it’s a lot left to learn.

What’s it like to spend so much time together?
This far it’s been a lot of fun and we learn things from and with each other; getting to know our selves and each other in new ways and it’s taking our relationship to a new level. At times it would be nice to be able to do more things on our own, like we used to back in Sweden.
Still it feels like a wonderful gift to be able to, and want, to spend so much time together after being a couple for about 16,5 years. We laugh a lot more together now than we used to. That’s fun!

Sun bathing in Santa Cruz

Sun bathing in Santa Cruz

Do you miss Sweden?
Not really. Some people and places but at the moment we don’t miss living in Sweden. Rather, we like having a variety, being able to see and experience new places, people, food and lifestyles. We do look forward to spending the summer in our old hoods and with our dear ones.

Midsummer Eve 2014

Midsummer Eve 2014

Did we miss anything you’d like to ask us? Please feel free to send us a message here through the contact form or e-mail us at: anwisandberg[at]gmail.com

// Anders & Wivan

Everything at once

Got this word of wisdom on a teabag from Yogi tea the other night.

Now is the time!

Now is the time!

And that’s exactly what it’s like at the moment. Many things are happening at the same time and I believe we’re both a bit tired of all administrative things we’ve been up to since we signed a contract with a buyer of our house. It appeared that we needed to renovate quite big parts of our bathroom, so that has been started (ok, it’s not us doing the work but we’re filing a claim with the insurance company).

The former bathroom

The former bathroom

Except for the renovation, some new “interesting” things regarding our loans in the bank have shown up and at the same time we’re finishing the last parts of an offer to a company-owner.

And last night Anders sold his Harley Davidson motorcycle, a sad good bye and at the same time something he wanted to do as a preparation for our move.

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Last night with the precious Fat Bob Harley Davidson

It’s been many different phone calls, talks about insurance, bank loans, craftsmen, advising, lists of to-do, percentages back and forth, online ads for things we want to sell, making packing-lists and what not.

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Things to bring in the car to Spain

So in between all of that it’s kind of nice to start packing things up and numbering the boxes in wich we’re storing most of our belongings until we decide to get rid of them or bring them down to Spain in a year or so.

We’ve lived together for almost 16 years and I’m amazed and a bit overwhelmed over how many things we have. And what kind of things we’ve kept during the years. The big things, like furniture and so are ok, but I really dislike all the small stuff, those are the hardest to pack and know what to do with. Like 100 pens… or small souvenirs etc.

Boxes, the new black ;-)

Boxes, the new black 😉

But, when put in the perspective of that it’ll probably be a year until we start opening those boxes, I guess it’ll be a bit easier to choose what to actually keep and what to get rid of. It’s just a lot of logistics in getting rid of stuff too. Like finding people who want exactly those pens, or getting a friend to come and pick “their” thing up before we throw it away or give to charity.

When I googled “less things”, I found this cool project based blog, 365 less things which is written by two women who decided to declutter their homes by getting rid of one thing per day in one year’s time. Fun!

And if you’re still sceptic, see their ‘before and after’ pictures.

Ok, back to packing! No more paperwork at the moment, please 🙂

// Wivan