Self coaching and getting help

A friend of mine use to tell me she thinks I am good at coaching myself in life. And, yes I am – at times. Other times I am no good at it at all.

View on a bike ride the other night.

During those “other times” I take help from friends, family and professionals to remember who I am, what I need, want and how to continue taking care of myself. 
Most of us get out of “balance” or alignment ever so often throughout our lives. Another friend called it to be ‘out of sync’ last week, and my experience is that it really can feel like that. So most people need some guidence from time to time.

A book, a podcast or an interview by/with a person we are inspired by can be a great reminder or help for us to ask the questions we need or do the basic things for us to get back into sync sooner rather than later.

To make a fire is like meditation to me.

Earlier this year I had a rather negative attitude towards… Well, pretty much everything, so I started going to several of my guides more actively again.

  • I listened to the audio book “The monk who sold his Ferrari” by Robin Sharma during daily walks.
  • On Youtube I watched/listened to talks and guided meditations with Mooji and Eckhart Tolle before going to sleep.
  • Started (again) to read newsletters by the Swedish coaches Anders Haglund and Olof Röhlander. Both are former professional athletes.
  • Checked out one of my body movement inspirations (Naprapatjonas) on Instagram more frequently and started reading his blog again.

You might have your own guides and mentors already, or you feel inspired to find a new one. They’re all around us, and we need only to be open to see and hear when someone or something makes us feel moved in a good way to understand we might have found something valuable.

Nature is always a good place to be!

When I am extremely tired or in some other way put out of natural physical balance, my inner guide usually goes away to someplace Nice and it’s more important than eder for me to ask for help to stay friendly towards myself and keep my priorities right.

Good groceries to inspire to eat good food.

I literally make a short list of my basic needs or ask someone to help me stick to the basics: sleep, eat, have fun and move my body. If nothing else works – that’s a good base to just stay above the surface. Then I can add small goals like eating more vegetables, going to the gym or call a friend.

One of our chickens enjoying life outside.

Love and sunshine – allways.

//Wivan 

Letting insights in

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Coffee and a chat

Over a coffee yesterday afternoon we were going to discuss what type of diving we wanted to book for today. We had just been at the beach and then taken a little walk – it was time for decisions and then off to the dive center.

Our talk ended in something totally different. We were not going to dive this Monday. It can wait. Something else is more important. The feeling. The sense of needing more rest.

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AnWiSa in new diving masks

So, we let life be as it is, allowing ourselves to follow the feeling and just having no plan for the day – other than moving to another hotel here in Khao Lak.

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Thai market

Anders was the one catching the sensation, and being brave enough to say it out loud – he needs more time to rest, recover and to gain more energy. Otherwise diving is just a “doing”, not a passion or something really fun.
As a matter of fact he was basically “touching the wall paper” with his nose (close to the famous wall) when he was still working, and there’s a process of recovery and healing going on. No one knows for how long or how the process looks, we just need to follow the feeling of the moment and trust that our guidence is showing the way.

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Market day

As a part of this, we also continue to promise each other to be true, to speak from the heart and not hold back when something is important. It’s also a promise to take care of ourselves first, then each other – nothing else will work in the long run.

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Wivan took a massage

So, like every one should ask him/her self every now and then; what do you need or want this very moment?

Lots of love!
Anders and Wivan

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Tom Yam soup for lunch

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Wivan + cocktails = true

“Green Gubb Strategy”

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Green light a night in Paris

When we’re in a city, and there are traffic lights, we often use our home made “Green Gubb Strategy” to guide us.

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Not this way

For example, if there are several options of where to go, we simply choose the way where there is a green light for walking.

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Let's go this way!

So, isn’t this a quite different way of deciding on where to eat dinner, where to walk or which shop to choose compared to doing tons of research online or always using a map? Sure it is, and we enjoy a little bit of both, but actually mainly go with the “Green Gubb”, to se where we get, whom we meet and what comes in our way. One of many ways to play in life!

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Sort of waiting for green light...

What’s with the “Gubb” then?! Well, that’s what the Green traffic light for walkers is called in Swedish, so we just made it a bit more international.

Enjoy your weekend!
// Wivan and Anders

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The Green light guide

“You will enjoy it too much”

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And yes, we did enjoy it very much. The pyramids. Our driver, Hassan, kept on saying ‘you will enjoy it too much’, when he thought we were about to see something we would like very much.

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We took a taxi early this Sunday morning to go to Saqqara pyramids, in order to avoid lots of fuzz and scams that unfortunately have become a trade mark for the famous pyramids of Giza. Luckily, our driver Hassan came up with a tour idea while we were driving and talked us into going to Giza first, and then to Saqqara.

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So we were the first customers of the day at the guide Ahmed’s place and got a camel each to ride on, while Ahmed and Hassan were riding on horses.

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We were brought in to the area by locals and after going through the security control, we sat back up on the camels for a ride around the pyramids and a beautiful view of the desert.

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Let’s just say we had a wonderful time and got to see and experience very much during these hours. And paying for the taxi driver to stay with us all day was certainly worth it – we hardly had any people trying to sell, rent or ask for tips all day. Well, probably only about ten of them, wich is not much at all. And being at Giza early in the morning gave us an almost private view of this historic place. Magical.

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After this start of the day, we also got a good meal at a local restaurant, a full experience of a driver who literally fed us with locally grown bananas, strawberries and clementines, a tour of “Top Secret” tombs in Saqqara, and then an afternoon coffee and water pipe at a road side coffeehouse where mostly locals go.

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There are tons of “guides”, helpers, horse drivers and what not trying to get paid for their help or work. By having a local driver, Hassan, who walked with us all day, we got help to tip the right people, and to stay away from too much extras. Certainly we have been fooled by someone anyway, but this was a really good and nice experience. //Anders and Wivan

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