Clearing out and looking inside

Beautiful light in the morning

A few days ago I watched the last episode of a television show called Naked (Naken in Swedish), where four people do a month-long experiment where all of their belongings are taken away from them and they get to take only one thing/piece of clothing back per day during the 30 day experiment.

It has been interesting to watch, especially what happens to these people when mobile phones and other distractions are taken away from them. And how they get creative in new ways when there is something they want but don’t have money.

The sky…

It has also been interesting to see, hear and follow one of the participants who felt depressed when the experiment came to an end and she was about to get all of her belongings back. She had found out things about herself and her life and simply didn’t want to go back to her old life.

And two months after the experiment was over, she still lived accordingly to some of those insights – no social media and less time with distractions and more time living in the moment. She hadn’t been taking a selfie or been in a picture in two months! (before the experiment she was constantly online and chatting, posting pictures etc).

View from my morning walk

This woman inspired me to delete the Instagram app that I’ve been addicted to lately – as an experiment during my two weeks off from work, just to see what it feels like. I’ve been off Facebook for a year and a half and haven’t missed it at all, and now I am ready to try and live a bit more away from other people’s updates for a while and simply spend more time with myself and the people and things I meet irl.

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Four weeks without Facebook

It’s actually been more than four weeks since I signed out and de-activated my Facebook-account as a test to see how it works out. Last week a friend of mine said she misses me on FB, and she wonders how it’s working for me.

Up till then I hadn’t really thought about it that much and it’s felt very natural to me not to watch what’s happening on Facebook daily.

A picture from @lantis Facebook page that I downloaded before signing out

A picture from @lantis Facebook page that I downloaded before signing out

Today, after having a Skype meeting with a couple of good friends, I came to think about this again and was surprised of still not missing being on FB like I used to. It feels kind of weird, since I have been on Facebook for over seven years, many times “visiting” FB-friends daily or even several times per day. Having conversations, getting input on things, seeing pictures and posting thoughts, photos or links.

Picture from webworks.ie

Picture from webworks.ie

For the moment I don’t miss it and haven’t thought much about it. Wonder if it’s easier to do this when not being around friends, or if it is that my habits and way of living have changed? I am on Instagram almost daily and like it a lot, but I did that before getting off FB too. You find me as wivankristina on Instagram.

So, the test of not being on FB will continue for a while longer. Or forever. We’ll see!

// Wivan

Moving out digitally

Since a few days we’re discussing to take a big time out or totally move out from several digital “homes” for an extended period of time.

Old Facebook picture from 2012, now saved onto the computer

Old Facebook picture from 2012, now saved onto the computer

Not being online, reading e-mails, blogging, no Facebook, Instagram, Viber or any of those things. For months. It’s still only a discussion and probably won’t be happening until next winter but it awakens interesting thoughts for the both of us.

Classic Facebook picture from Giza pyramids

Classic Facebook picture from Giza pyramids

As a test, Wivan now has de-activated her Facebook and Twitter accounts for an unknown period to see how it feels and if something “happens”. She hasn’t really used Twitter the past few years, but rare visits have happened and we have used automatic linking to our blog via Twitter. Not any more! Let’s see what happens next.

Have you decided to step away from any of the digital forums or “homes” you’ve had? In that case; why?

//Anders and Wivan

Different with different people

Postcards, e-mails, blog posts, Skype calls, Viber messages, phone calls, packages, Facebook, Instagram, Whattsapp…

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Wivan on Skype with her Master Mind group

There are many ways of staying in touch with family, friends and new acquaintances. After writing an e-mail to Wivan’s 95-year old grandmother it becomes clear that we write, talk and describe things differently depending on the reciever.

Really nothing new, in the sense that Wivan has worked as a journalist for several years and in that work has been thinking a lot about the reader/listener/viewer, and in Anders’ work it’s also been different communication methods and ways depending on with whom or where in the world the other person is.

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Anders and one of the cats catching up on some correspondence

But since we now stay in touch with friends, family members of different ages, blog followers, former colleagues and neighbours it’s fun to see how we think of these people, what we know they’re interested in and what they’re looking for in the world.

So, Wivan’s grandmother got an extended story about us baking cinnamon rolls for a “Swedish fika”. Grandma has been baking a lot in her life and can relate to that, and like hearing about everyday things.

Our sister-in-law gets some pictures of a French kitchen since she’s thinking of how to finish their kitchen. Not many words in her message – she’s working full time, have a small child at home and spend a lot of time working on their house.

The nieces and nephews are usually on Facebook and/or Instagram, so it’s mostly short messages, likes and pictures. We probably should start snap chatting to really stay up-to-date with them. But, we’re still a bit old-fashioned in that sense ;-).

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Friday kiss

The friends are usually on Facebook, and we chat in short or long messages. Some we send e-mails to and others also Viber or Whattsapp.

Parents and siblings we like to see and talk to over Skype, so we do that quite a lot when the current Internet connection allows it. They also get a long e-mail every now and then, where we summarize some of the latest information and experiences, and short “we’ve now landed in…” e-mails after flying or driving longer distances.

Even if we’re on the rather slow and quiet country side, we still have a lot of communication going on. And like it! Different focus and pictures for different people, closer and more personal with our closest ones. It was good to realize this is happening, and why at times it feels overwhelming to tell everyone “everything”, since we’re changing the details and focus depending on who we’re talking or writing to.

How do your interactions vary depending on the person at the other end?

Stay in touch!

//Wivan and Anders