Self coaching and getting help

A friend of mine use to tell me she thinks I am good at coaching myself in life. And, yes I am – at times. Other times I am no good at it at all.

View on a bike ride the other night.

During those “other times” I take help from friends, family and professionals to remember who I am, what I need, want and how to continue taking care of myself. 
Most of us get out of “balance” or alignment ever so often throughout our lives. Another friend called it to be ‘out of sync’ last week, and my experience is that it really can feel like that. So most people need some guidence from time to time.

A book, a podcast or an interview by/with a person we are inspired by can be a great reminder or help for us to ask the questions we need or do the basic things for us to get back into sync sooner rather than later.

To make a fire is like meditation to me.

Earlier this year I had a rather negative attitude towards… Well, pretty much everything, so I started going to several of my guides more actively again.

  • I listened to the audio book “The monk who sold his Ferrari” by Robin Sharma during daily walks.
  • On Youtube I watched/listened to talks and guided meditations with Mooji and Eckhart Tolle before going to sleep.
  • Started (again) to read newsletters by the Swedish coaches Anders Haglund and Olof Röhlander. Both are former professional athletes.
  • Checked out one of my body movement inspirations (Naprapatjonas) on Instagram more frequently and started reading his blog again.

You might have your own guides and mentors already, or you feel inspired to find a new one. They’re all around us, and we need only to be open to see and hear when someone or something makes us feel moved in a good way to understand we might have found something valuable.

Nature is always a good place to be!

When I am extremely tired or in some other way put out of natural physical balance, my inner guide usually goes away to someplace Nice and it’s more important than eder for me to ask for help to stay friendly towards myself and keep my priorities right.

Good groceries to inspire to eat good food.

I literally make a short list of my basic needs or ask someone to help me stick to the basics: sleep, eat, have fun and move my body. If nothing else works – that’s a good base to just stay above the surface. Then I can add small goals like eating more vegetables, going to the gym or call a friend.

One of our chickens enjoying life outside.

Love and sunshine – allways.

//Wivan 

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Essential landing

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On the ferry to Germany

Within 24 hours from leaving Höör on Wednesday, we reached our destination in the inland of the Aquitaine region in the southwest of France. With 1,5 hours of sleep in the car on a parking lot south of Paris we were happy to find our way very well the last few hours of driving.

After a warm greeting and a quick tour we went for a short walk in the tiny town we’re now staying. Got back to the house, had some tea and then slept for about half an hour.

Details

Beautiful details from our walk

That’s what this post is actually about. To rest and sleep. Because that’s an basic need as humans, and yet quite a few of us tend to skip the need of rest and sleep in order to be more “effective” or to be able to do more things during our waking hours.

This morning we got to sleep in. Wivan woke up around 9 am and went downstairs to talk to the house owners before they left. And then she took a nap on the sofa.

Wivan's pillow case from her childhood

Wivan’s pillow case

Anders woke up a few hours later and have been up since while Wivan had a hard time staying awake and had another nap by noon :-).

Our bodies are wise, thay know we need lots of rest to settle down and recover from weeks of extreme situations with many emotionally strong moments, lots of packing and planning, hard work and at the same time selling the house. An extreme car trip on top of that and it’s no wonder we’re tired, confused and in need of “nothingness”.

Small plaza in a small French village

Small plaza in a small French village

Our thoughts keep saying we “should” go outside, that we ought to do some sightseeing, that the blog needs to be updated, that we should write to everyone who’s written comments on Facebook and that we absolutely have to start practice French… Among lots of other things.

Our bodies keep on being wiser than that and reminds of rest and the knowledge that things will be solved and sorted out in due time. Just have to remember that we do so much better after some sleep or hours of doing “nothing”. A nice walk, some excercise, a movie, some reading or cooking can also do as great recovery and landing – there’s no one and only way.

Breakfast in front of the pellets burner

Breakfast in front of the pellets burner

At times it seems to be of great importance to do stuff, to be effective, to get things done. And yet other times it’s far more important to remember we first need to take care of ourselves and listen to warnings, such as normally fun activities seeming dull or that the thinking is’nt working properly – those are signs of need to slow down, to rest or to let go for a while and maybe do something totally different.

How do you listen to your signs and signals? And what’s your favourite way of resting?

Here are some more pictures from our trip from Sweden to France:

Cool interior in the bathroom at a gas station

Cool bathroom at a gas station

 

Our "snack bag" with yoghurt, veggies, fruits, candy, bread and water among other things.

Our “snack bag” with yoghurt, veggies, fruits, candy, bread and water among other things.

 

Sunshine!

Sunshine!

 

1.30 am brushing our teeth

At 1.30 am Anders is brushing his teeth

 

Tuesday night in Malmö

Tuesday night in Malmö

 

Fresh strawberry picked on the 7th of November!

Fresh strawberry picked on the 7th of November!

 

After a 5 am-drop-off in Paris, our friend DID find the Eiffel tower later the same day... We were happy just to find our way out of the city!

After a 5 am-drop-off in Paris, our friend DID find the Eiffel tower later the same day… We were happy just to find our way out of the city!

 

Thanks for sharing the picture. We didn't get to see it irl, maybe next time And then we won't drive ourselves!

Thanks for sharing the picture. We didn’t get to see it irl, maybe next time And then we won’t drive ourselves!