Well-being is not the fruit of something you do; it is the essence of who you are. There is nothing you need to change, do, be, or have in order to be happy.
This one I finished reading a few days ago, and I must say it was one of those books that caught me from the very first page and left me with a ‘is it already over?!’ kind of feeling. A great book in the sense that it’s a true story, in the sense that the story is only a few years old, and in the sense that the person writing the book has done massive change in order to get what she really wanted in life. In other words, it was inspiring to me and I believe it has inspired many others too.
Whose dream life am I living? Because it’s certainly not mine.
I started this journey by getting rid of clothes, but eventually I slowly peeled off the layers of judgements I had placed upon myself for failing to get married by the ripe old age of thirty-four. For failing to find happiness in my chosen career. For creating a life that wasn’t much fun. I let myself off the hook. I forgave myself for the judgments. The truth is that I did the best I could with what I knew at the time.
I might have felt an extra connection to Janice in the book, since she walks the streets of Paris like a mad person, and we too have walked the streets of Paris, and now are walking the streets of Singapore, maybe not like mad but still walking a lot and exploring life and places. And maybe also because she decides to clear out her stuff, to make huge changes and live life in a different way than before.
We must know how to design our lives. We are all artists, and each day is a canvas.
From the first page I made marks in the book, I highlighted sentences and sections that stood out and spoke to me, quotes I wanted to share with others or be able to find easily another time. And those great quotes and powerful words just kept on coming throughout the whole book.
There is a certain freedom in not having so many choices.
So, either if you want to read a interesting story of someone re-directing her life completely, or if you are looking for some company on your own journey in life, this is a great book!
With love from Singapore,
And what really hooked me to download and listen to this particular episode was the short description about writing and storytelling. Something I think a lot about these days, something I’ve realized I’ve devoted a big part of my life to: Writing and storytelling.
Right now in life we’re traveling, exploring and doing a lot of “just being”, and still I continue (of course) to think of and ask myself what I love to do, how I want to live my life, and how I can contribute in this world.
So listening to the interview with the author Amy Stewart about her writing, passion and about telling stories has been a great contribution to my thinking on the topic.
Isn’t it cool when those things pop up right in front of you, and you can “spend time” with somebody you wouldn’t meet on the street where you are, but you can listen to their thoughts and input anyways?!
Every other day, we water the vegetable garden and look for snails (the Spanish ones that eat up everything) and eggs and caterpillars on the kale and cabbage. And then we make sure to get rid of them (that’s another story).
When I was a child, my mom used to read me the story about The Very Hungry Caterpillar, and now I keep remembering the story every time I go out and see how much damage one little caterpillar can do on a piece of cabbage or a kale leaf. Amazing.
With some of the words from the story ringing in my head, I feel greater patience and persistence when looking for those small caterpillars, and remember just how hungry they can be.
Here’s a video of the story!
Outside it’s cold and chilly today. After my morning walk I was cold and just want to stay inside. So I do. Looking at apartments to rent in Paris, since we’re planning on going there before our trip to Asia in a few weeks.
Finished reading Simon Fitzmaurice’s book It’s not yet dark and was again reminded of how grateful one can be to be alive, to be healthy and possible to enjoy the days and moments we have in this life.
Keeping up a Dolce far niente-mood and am reminded of Sundays from my childhood, afternoons spent in bed, reading and dozing off. It’s lovely to be able to relax.
Just got Anita Moorjani’s book downloaded for the Kindle app, looking forward to re-read it.
You can connect from all kinds of places- energetic harmony, sexual alchemy, intellectual alignment- but they won’t sustain love over a lifetime. You need a thread that goes deeper, that moves below and beyond the shifting sands of compatibility.
That thread is fascination- a genuine fascination with someone’s inner world, with the way they organize reality, with the way they hearticulate their feelings, with the unfathomable and bottomless depths of their being. To hear their soul cry out to you again and again, and to never lose interest in what it is trying to convey.
If there is that, then there will still be love when the body sickens, when the sexuality fades, when the perfection projection is long shattered. If there is that, you will swim in love’s waters until the very last breath.
Your faith in the fact that this world has your best interests in mind but often send its miracles disguised as difficulties must be far bigger than your fear of those difficilties ruining your life. Your faith in the intelligence of the universe must be a lot larger than your fears that your’re all alone. There’s a much bigger plan unfolding, and you must trust in it. Once you do, the enchantment of your life will be given permission to rise to the surface.
– From the book The saint, the surfer and the CEO, by Robin Sharma –
In an article about us (yes, it’s in Swedish) that’s published in the local Swedish newspaper Skånska Dagbladet today, we give five tips or suggestions on how to start a personal change. We’ve translated it for you, lovely blog readers, and would love to hear your comments or additions to the list.
Anders & Wivans best tips and questions for those who are ready to make a change of some sort.
- Why do you want a change? Is it something you want to “dodge from” or something you are longing for?
- Give your self time to reflect. Where are you today? How would you like your life/situation? What are you dreaming of?
- Find your role models. There are books, movies, You Tube, blogs, seminars, TED talks, friends and acquaints – who inspires you?
- Read the book “The inside out revolution” by Michael Neill.
- Dare to try! Each change starts with a small step. Let things take time and keep on – we never know until we actually tried.