Self coaching and getting help

A friend of mine use to tell me she thinks I am good at coaching myself in life. And, yes I am – at times. Other times I am no good at it at all.

View on a bike ride the other night.

During those “other times” I take help from friends, family and professionals to remember who I am, what I need, want and how to continue taking care of myself. 
Most of us get out of “balance” or alignment ever so often throughout our lives. Another friend called it to be ‘out of sync’ last week, and my experience is that it really can feel like that. So most people need some guidence from time to time.

A book, a podcast or an interview by/with a person we are inspired by can be a great reminder or help for us to ask the questions we need or do the basic things for us to get back into sync sooner rather than later.

To make a fire is like meditation to me.

Earlier this year I had a rather negative attitude towards… Well, pretty much everything, so I started going to several of my guides more actively again.

  • I listened to the audio book “The monk who sold his Ferrari” by Robin Sharma during daily walks.
  • On Youtube I watched/listened to talks and guided meditations with Mooji and Eckhart Tolle before going to sleep.
  • Started (again) to read newsletters by the Swedish coaches Anders Haglund and Olof Röhlander. Both are former professional athletes.
  • Checked out one of my body movement inspirations (Naprapatjonas) on Instagram more frequently and started reading his blog again.

You might have your own guides and mentors already, or you feel inspired to find a new one. They’re all around us, and we need only to be open to see and hear when someone or something makes us feel moved in a good way to understand we might have found something valuable.

Nature is always a good place to be!

When I am extremely tired or in some other way put out of natural physical balance, my inner guide usually goes away to someplace Nice and it’s more important than eder for me to ask for help to stay friendly towards myself and keep my priorities right.

Good groceries to inspire to eat good food.

I literally make a short list of my basic needs or ask someone to help me stick to the basics: sleep, eat, have fun and move my body. If nothing else works – that’s a good base to just stay above the surface. Then I can add small goals like eating more vegetables, going to the gym or call a friend.

One of our chickens enjoying life outside.

Love and sunshine – allways.

//Wivan 

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Intense first week back in Sweden

Last weekend by the pool.

Last Sunday I went back to Sweden after two great weeks in Spain with Anders. He is staying two weeks by himself at our house sit. We had planned for that and still it was both sad and hard to wave goodbye at the airport. I really loved the place and we had such good times together during my time off from work.

Mending a broken parasoll…

Since there was wifi on the plane back I spent a lot of time looking at other ideas for traveling in the future 🙂 this trip and time in a warmer and sunnier climate got my travel bug started again! It’s like my body awakes when it’s warm and sunny, and life just becomes easier and simpler.

Coffee at the airport.

Coming back to Sweden and work wasn’t too bad though I got less than four hours of sleep before getting up Monday morning (I start working at 5.30 am). And thanks to great collegues I have had a very fun week at work, except the cold weather and extreme tiredness I get from my IVF-medicine right now. Most days it feels like I’m drunk from when I get up until I go to bed. And I keep forgetting things and what my priorities are, so I am very grateful to the nice people around me who keeps telling me to rest and only do what I want in my spare time. This is not the time for big projects or effectiveness!

My breakfast today.

It was a great thing to start the treatment for this third IVF-cycle in Spain though, where I had no problem to rest and just do whatever felt good all day long. I belive I had less side-effects from the meds there and part of it might be thanks to my “airy” schedule. This was a big difference from last treatment, when it was a lot tougher right from the start. And all the time I keep reminding myself of why we do this and am always grateful for the Swedish tax system that means we only pay a little part of the cost for these medicines.

Flowering trees in Sweden.

This weekend I let myself totally free and do just as much as I feel like, or rest. It’s a sunny day and I need to get some sun screen on before I go outside.

Take care and keep remembering what’s good in your life.

Love, Wivan 

Not moving so fast

My view at the moment. Far from stores and public beaches.

It’s Wednesday and we have talked about going to the store as well as doing a bit of sightseeing in town and by the beach. But it’s just not happening. We’re reading, sunbathing and chilling out instead.

Today’s breakfast.

A thought crossed my mind as I am laying in the sun: too bad the house owners don’t have bikes we could use. It would be so great to ride bikes on the small roads around here. And then I realized that maybe it’s very good there are no bikes – so we get to see and explore the area and nature at a slower pace instead of trying to cover as much ground as possible.

Anders during a hike the other day. The big house with the pool is where we stay.

There are so many sounds, smells, birds, plants and flowers to experience. The wind, the warmth of the sun and all different colors.

Lots of love,

Wivan